Updated: Nov 28, 2019
You have heard me make the statement that marriage is hard work. It is what I believe, but even hard work can still be joyous because we look forward to enjoying the fruit of our labor. Perhaps another way of making this statement is, marriage takes effort.
In my study one morning God pointed something out to me for husbands and wife.
In Genesis 1:27-29 the Word says, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female, created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the fowl of the air and over every living thing that moves upon the earth. And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of the a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be meat.”
So from the very beginning God intended that man and woman should not only give to the earth, but also receive from it.
In Genesis 2:4-5 says, “These are the generations of the heavens and of the earth when they were created, in the day that the Lord God made the earth and the heavens, And every plant of the field before it was in the earth, and every herb of the field before it grew: for the Lord God had not caused it to rain upon the earth, and there was not a man to till the ground.”
The word “till” means to work or serve. So…there was not a man to work or serve the ground…from the beginning the earth was to be worked by man and woman to bring forth fruit.
However, the exchange between man and earth was never intended to be burdensome.
Burden was not added until separation between God and man occurred…now what was supposed to take joyful effort became cursed and laborious.
Your marriage is your garden. You might have heard me teach or mention “Garden Moments” and those moments are simply times of decision. Adam and his wife had a garden moment that set the course of humanity towards separation from God.
The second Adam, Jesus, had a garden moment that redirected the course of humanity towards reconciliation with God.
The point is this…where ever you find struggle in your marriage…effort above the norm…one of a few things is happening:
You and/or your spouse has created separation from God
The enemy is in active conversation with you and/or your spouse
You and/or your spouse are trying to carry the marital effort alone
If you find yourself in any of these situations, then is the time to turn to God and say, “Never the less, let your will be done in my marriage and not my own.”
This is a statement of sacrifice and no marriage can be saved without it!