There Is Hope To Clean Your Marriage Bed

Updated: Nov 28, 2019

Jeff knew that marriage would be a challenge, but he never counted on facing this circumstance.

Jeff committed to being a good husband to Jessica and father to their children.  He loved Jessica dearly or at least that’s what he thought.    How did he find himself in this situation?

The song ‘Song Cry’ by Jay-Z came to mind as he contemplated his current situation… “I’ve got to live with the fact that I did you wrong forever.”

There was no doubt that his marriage was on the rocks and it probably started way before he met Lisa, his passing love interest, distraction, sex partner or any other descriptors one might use.

It did not matter when it started, but the truth at this point and the only thing that matters is that he has defiled his bed.

Now the questions of most concern to Jeff are, “Can my bed be cleaned and if so, how?”

The story of Jeff is not uncommon.  Jeff has cheated on his wife.  The truth is, infidelity has become too common in marriage and almost accepted or even worse, expected.  Additionally, cheating is no longer limited to men but is quickly becoming prevalent among women.

Consider the followingMarriage Infidelity Statistics’:

  1. Percent of marriages where one or both spouses admit to infidelity, either physical or emotional, 41%

  2. Percent of men who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had, 57%

  3. Percentage of women who admit to committing infidelity in any relationship they’ve had, 54%

  4. Percent of married men who have strayed at least once during their married lives, 22%

  5. Percent of married women who have strayed at least once during their married lives, 14%

  6. Percentage of men and women who admit to having an affair with a co-worker, 36%

  7. Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity on business trips, 35%

  8. Percentage of men and women who admit to infidelity with a brother-in-law or sister-in-law, 17%

  9. Average length of an affair, 2 years

  10. Percentage of marriages that last after an affair has been admitted to or discovered, 31%

  11. Percentage of men who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught, 74%

  12. Percentage of women who say they would have an affair if they knew they would never get caught, 68 %

  13. Percent of children who are the product of infidelity, 2.5 %

So how do we fix the problem?  In a perfect world, we focus on prevention and then the problem never exists.  However, try as we may, we do not live in a perfect world and are thus faced with the issue of infidelity.

Of course, Hollywood has conditioned us to believe that the only option is divorce.  We can split the children, the dog, the friends, she keeps the house; he gets a car, and all is right with the world, except when it is not.

Hear me clearly…DIVORCE IS PAINFUL AND DOES NOT FIX WHAT MOST PEOPLE THINK IN MOST CASES!

Consider the following statistics: Marriage Statistics: United States Data

  1. Annual number of U.S. marriages: 2,077,000

  2. Marriage rate: 6.8 per 1,000

  3. Divorce rate: 3.4 per 1,000

Children of Divorced Parents Statistics Data

  1. Average annual number of children whose parents divorce: 1,500,000

  2. Percent of children born today who will experience the breakup of their parents 50 %

  3. Percent who experience short-term effects like anxiety, anger, shock and disbelief 85 %

  4. Percent who experience long term effects like loneliness, unhappy, anxious, and insecure 60 %

  5. Percent of long-term prison inmates that grew up in broken homes 70 %

Percent INCREASE in the following behavior for children of divorced parents Percent Increase

  1. Need psychological help 90 %